Friday, January 12, 2018

[2045] Year of the Dog

It's my year at last!

Currently listening to an audiobook titled "13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do: Raising Self-Assured Children and Training Their Brains for a Life of Happiness, Meaning, and Success" by Amy Morin. The book is aimed at how to encourage your child not to have a victim mentality and take responsibility for her own successes, how to practise finding the silver lining when things don't go their way etc rather than engaging in self-pity. I can actually think of several adults who should learn these skills as well unfortunately, and they go through hours of complaining without thinking they should be taking responsibility for their own choices in life. Another point in the book was how kids manipulate adults by taking advantage of their guilt. When kids see you being wishy washy about making decisions, they lose confidence in your position as a strong leader. Which only teaches them that you are an easy target for manipulation in future. Luckily I'm such an emotional robot and rarely feel any guilt, so there's no room for bb trying to guilt-trip me. Muahahaha.  "To be a good mother is to be a good enough mother" - one of the best lines in the book for any mum to follow - there is no need to be a perfect mother, good enough is good enough.

Today while I waited for bb at her ballet lesson, there was another mum who was waiting with her 1.5 year old girl. It was a similar situation on Tuesday, when another mum was waiting with her 1.5 year old son. I had no idea how to interact with the toddlers actually. Generally I don't really know how to interact with other people's toddlers, because I just want to enjoy some quiet time when bb is finally away from me. I just smiled when they did silly things like opening/closing the dustbin lid repeatedly etc, because I wanted to avoid having them come to me to try to play with me. I shudder to think of what I'm getting myself into with the 2nd child coming in a few months. (and also an even stronger conviction that I really am not very fond of children)

I have been feeling super tired (age...) this time round, and can barely get out of bed every day. Of course the cold weather doesn't help, and we always wake up just in time to eat some lunch, get changed and go for the afternoon classes. Even while writing this blog entry I'm sorta dozing off. (only 10pm by the way). I can't wait to be back in Singapore, but at the same time dreading the coming rest of the year of being sleep deprived (again....).


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations for having a second baby! Take good care and enjoy life! ��

10:52 pm GMT+8  

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